Where Is The Love?

Right before I went to bed last night / this morning, at around 4 am, I received a headline news alert on my mobile phone from The New York Times. I was too tired to even read through the headline itself, but I do recall the two words that stood out: Boston and Bombing. All sorts of calamities happen all over the world everyday, and even though I suspected it might have been bad, the news I woke up to this morning was indeed a real shocker.

Whichever country you’re in right now, I’m sure you would have already heard about the explosion that took place at the Boston Marathon on April 15. While US law enforcers are still in search for the people behind the bombings, the current figures state that at least 3 are dead and over 140 injured.

It really makes me so sad to know that I am here, so safe and protected, while there are hundreds of families in the US that are overwhelmed with panic and devastation right this second.

Just how heartless can people get? You’d think that love and compassion are innate characteristics in every single human being, but events like this just prove otherwise. No guilt? Don’t they think about the little kids and innocent lives before doing something so extreme as this? Has our society become so numbed to that one emotion that makes us human – that thing called ‘love’?

Already feeling disturbed by this news, I came across this piece of local news, which made me so pissed. As I said on Facebook, “I don’t know which is more saddening: terrorists killing innocent lives because of their flawed beliefs or downright stupid drunk drivers who have no regard for the safety and lives of others.”

Apparently, the driver was so drunk that he continued his crashing spree despite already causing so much damage and wreckage. After hitting the taxi, he drove on and hit a bus, drove on even further and I believe he hit another car before being stopped at the traffic junction.

This driver needs to have his license revoked and boy do I hope he get one helluva punishment for his stupidity.


*UPDATE: This post was originally written at 7:30 pm (EST). I am updating this now at 10:42 pm (EST).

When I first came across the video on the Mercedes crash at Bugis, the online source mentioned that the driver was drunk at the time of the accident. Later sources such as Singapore’s national newspaper, The Straits Times, are now claiming that the driver had in fact fainted at the wheel when he crashed into the taxis and the double-decker bus. Of course, The Straits Times is a more reliable source, so I apologise for the wrong information and my very disrespectful words earlier with regard to the accident. 

Change Your Body Language, Change Who You Are

Our non-verbals govern how other people think and feel about us,
but do our non-verbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves?

That’s essentially what this video, which I’m about to share, is all about.
I have an acute interest in psychology and human behavior, so this was an interesting watch.

It’s the start of a brand new year. If you’re already feeling defeated by the challenges that surround you, this Ted talk by Amy Cuddy might just be your key to surviving, even thriving, the year ahead.

Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.

Testosterone is a dominant hormone, cortisol is the stress hormone.

Amy Cuddy

Some takeaway quotes from Amy Cuddy: 

  • “Don’t fake it till you make it. Fake it till you become it.”
  • Our bodies change our minds, and our minds can change our behavior, and our behavior can change our outcomes.
  • When we think of nonverbals, we think of how we judge others. … We tend to forget, though, the other audience that’s influenced by our nonverbals: ourselves.

Visit http://www.ted.com for more intriguing and inspiring talks.