1 Corinthians 7

1 Corinthians 7

New Living Translation (NLT)

Instruction on Marriage

7 Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to abstain from sexual relations.[a] But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.

Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another.

So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.

10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord.[b] A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.

12 Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man[c]has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her.

13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. 14 For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband[d] brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy. 15 (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife[e] is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you[f] to live in peace.)16 Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you? 

17 Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.18 For instance, a man who was circumcised before he became a believer should not try to reverse it. And the man who was uncircumcised when he became a believer should not be circumcised now. 19 For it makes no difference whether or not a man has been circumcised. The important thing is to keep God’s commandments.

20 Yes, each of you should remain as you were when God called you. 21 Are you a slave? Don’t let that worry you—but if you get a chance to be free, take it. 22 And remember, if you were a slave when the Lord called you, you are now free in the Lord. And if you were free when the Lord called you, you are now a slave of Christ. 23 God paid a high price for you, so don’t be enslaved by the world.[g] 24 Each of you, dear brothers and sisters,[h] should remain as you were when God first called you.

25 Now regarding your question about the young women who are not yet married. I do not have a command from the Lord for them. But the Lord in his mercy has given me wisdom that can be trusted, and I will share it with you.26 Because of the present crisis,[i] I think it is best to remain as you are. 27 If you have a wife, do not seek to end the marriage. If you do not have a wife, do not seek to get married. 28 But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, those who get married at this time will have troubles, and I am trying to spare you those problems.

29 But let me say this, dear brothers and sisters: The time that remains is very short. So from now on, those with wives should not focus only on their marriage. 30 Those who weep or who rejoice or who buy things should not be absorbed by their weeping or their joy or their possessions.31 Those who use the things of the world should not become attached to them. For this world as we know it will soon pass away.

32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 33 But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 34 His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.

36 But if a man thinks that he’s treating his fiancée improperly and will inevitably give in to his passion, let him marry her as he wishes. It is not a sin. 37 But if he has decided firmly not to marry and there is no urgency and he can control his passion, he does well not to marry. 38 So the person who marries his fiancée does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better.

39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but only if he loves the Lord.[j] 40 But in my opinion it would be better for her to stay single, and I think I am giving you counsel from God’s Spirit when I say this.


  1. 7:1 Or to live a celibate life; Greek reads It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
  2. 7:10 See Matt 5:32; 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18.
  3. 7:12 Greek a brother.
  4. 7:14 Greek the brother.
  5. 7:15a Greek the brother or sister.
  6. 7:15b Some manuscripts read us.
  7. 7:23 Greek don’t become slaves of people.
  8. 7:24 Greek brothers; also in 7:29.
  9. 7:26 Or the pressures of life.
  10. 7:39 Greek but only in the Lord.

Bali Adventure Day 4

Bali Adventure Day 4

Today is the final day we have in Bali before we leave early tomorrow morning. There isn’t much to do in Bali, but the holiday went by too fast. Too too fast.

It was our last day to treasure, but unfortunately, I felt very unwell that morning.
Woke up to have breakfast, feeling all chirpy and full of energy. And I’m not too sure if it was a case of food poisoning, but I went back to the hotel room with the runs. And right after that, my whole world was in complete imbalance and I felt like I was going to die. It felt exactly like what I went through 3 months back, right before I got admitted into the hospital for dehydration and low blood pressure.

During those few minutes, my boy actually went back to sleep and wasn’t aware at all of what was going on. So I just slipped myself under the covers to rest. Fell asleep for about an hour and woke up feeling even worse. I drank an entire 1.5 litre bottle of water, praying it would help in case it really was dehydration.

I prayed really hard and felt slightly better. I didn’t want to ruin what was left of our trip for him, so I agreed to going for the massage at the same spa just 5 minutes from our hotel.

We managed to make it there with me feeling better, but certainly not okay. Because the entire 2-hour massage only required me to lie down, it wasn’t strenuous on me at all. Again, I prayed for God to heal me. Prayed throughout the 2-hours.

Since the massage ‘targets’ the weak points of our body, I prayed that the Lord would guide the hands of the masseuse to areas of my body that needed healing. By God’s grace, I felt perfectly healed and energized by the end of the 2-hour massage. I asked my boyfriend about how his massage went and to my surprise, even though we took the same package, his massge went very differently from mine, and even though he started about 10 minutes before me, mine lasted about 15 minutes more than his.

I believe God did work his healing during that time, that’s why our massages were so different. I can’t express how thankful I am.

God is great.

After the massage, we took a cab down to Kuta Square.
We had a simple lunch at Dulang Kafe – a quiet and very modernized little cafe with lots of Caucasians, as usual.

This is their Ayam Java Mie with belinjau – an Asian crisp similar to potato chips but slightly bitter.
I’ve always loved this. It’s also sold in Singapore, by the way.

Seafood Nasi Goreng. We just had to have this.

We walked around the Kuta area, bought more clothes, necklaces, and snacks. By the time we were done, it was already 8pm and also time for dinner.

We walked back to Discovery Shopping Mall to check the place out for good food.

This caught our eyes.

We took the last private dining hut at the restaurant. Pretty nice way to end the night.

Chinchalok and Balinese chilli

Everything was so culturally Balinese. Even the rice was served in a rattan-weaved basket.

Sambal kangkong

Watching him serve rice, though a very simple act, is actually kinda entertaining.
That is what happens when you don’t step into the kitchen at all.

Barbecued Prawns.

Mussels and barbecued snapper.

Will I miss Bali? Yes. Will I return? Most definitely yes.

I loved the trip so much and it’s really all thanks to my awesome boyfriend. This all-expenses (flight & accommodation) paid trip was presented to me as my 23rd birthday present. He knows that my love language is time and what better way than to spend real quality time – just the two of us – on a vacation to a wonderful destination like Bali. Thanks baby <3. The holiday may be over, but the memories are here to stay forever.

I’ve got a Bangkok trip coming up in about 10 days time. Can’t wait for that! Another adventure for another day.